10 Common Sex Myths, Busted

Sex is talked about everywhere, yet myths about it are still common, and some can put your health at risk. Getting the facts right helps you protect yourself from unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and enjoy a healthier relationship. Here are 10 common sex myths and the truth behind them.

Myth 1: Pulling out prevents pregnancy

Fact: The fluid released before ejaculation (pre-cum) can contain sperm, and pulling out in time is hard to get right every time. With typical use, about 1 in 5 couples relying on withdrawal get pregnant within a year. It also gives no protection against STIs. Use a condom or another reliable method of contraception.

Myth 2: You can’t get pregnant during your period

Fact: It’s less likely, but possible. Sperm can survive in the body for up to 5 days, so if you ovulate early, especially with a short cycle, sex during or just after your period can lead to pregnancy.

Myth 3: You can’t get pregnant the first time you have sex

Fact: You can get pregnant any time you have unprotected sex, including the first time.

Myth 4: Oral sex is completely safe

Fact: Oral sex can’t cause pregnancy, but it can spread STIs such as gonorrhoea, syphilis, herpes and HPV. Using condoms or dental dams lowers the risk. Read about the health risks of oral sex.

Myth 5: You can tell if someone has an STI

Fact: Many STIs, including gonorrhoea, chlamydia and HIV, often cause no symptoms. The only way to know is to get tested. Learn more about gonorrhoea.

Myth 6: Two condoms are safer than one

Fact: Wearing two condoms at once, or a male and female condom together, causes friction that makes them more likely to tear. Use one condom correctly, every time.

Myth 7: Penis size determines sexual pleasure

Fact: Size matters far less than people think. Communication, comfort, foreplay and emotional connection have a much bigger effect on satisfaction for both partners.

Myth 8: Men always want sex more than women

Fact: Sex drive varies from person to person, not by gender. Stress, tiredness, health problems, medicines, relationship issues and hormones affect desire in both men and women.

Myth 9: Premature ejaculation means a man is weak

Fact: Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems in men and has nothing to do with strength. It is often linked to anxiety, stress or relationship issues, and is treatable with techniques, counselling or medicines from a doctor. Avoid unregulated “manpower” products, which can be dangerous.

Myth 10: If she isn’t making noise, she isn’t enjoying it

Fact: Everyone expresses pleasure differently. The best way to know what your partner enjoys is to ask and talk openly. Read more about sexual consent.

Look after your sexual health

• Use condoms to protect against STIs and unplanned pregnancy
• Get tested regularly if you have a new partner or more than one partner
• Talk openly with your partner about sex, contraception and testing
• If a condom breaks, emergency contraception works best when taken as soon as possible
• See a doctor about pain during sex, erection problems or changes in desire

Read more: 7 natural ways to improve your sex life.

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Frequently asked questions

Can pre-cum get you pregnant?
Yes, it can contain sperm, so pregnancy is possible even if the man pulls out.

Can you get an STI from oral sex?
Yes. Gonorrhoea, syphilis, herpes and HPV can all be passed on through oral sex.

Is premature ejaculation treatable?
Yes. A doctor can suggest techniques, counselling or medicines.

This article is for general information and does not replace advice from your doctor.

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